Or a lady to sweep other ladies off their feet. :-)

Not sure about both the pin and the necklace, but I wanted each of them. I like the romance of the rose and the outness of the pin.

Seriously, I need to get out and date. It's irritating because I mainly interact with people at work, and while I have some friends, I don't really have any I could go lesbian bar-hopping with. I mean, my honey--that would paint the wrong picture, like we're looking for a threesome or otherwise that I'm one of *those* bi girls. And the closest friend I have is a belligerent straight guy who's actually been tossed out of a lesbian bar before.

And then there's the Phoenix-factor. Frankly, I don't like people here as a rule, so I'm leery of what I'd find. Further, with that show The L Word defining lesbianism for so many gay women, I'm concerned that's what I'll find.

I used to be scared--probably from tentatively browsing personals ads online--that any girl I'd meet would have issues with my issues and neuroses and what-have-you. Then my first girlfriend. I remember I was getting ready to finally take the bus for the first time, and I was so nervous and scared about it. Then she calls, while I'm getting my things together. And I burst into tears about the whole thing. And she's cool. She doesn't try to tell me to get over it or that I'm being silly or whatever. She just said, "I know! I was so scared the first time I did it too!" And gave me some advice and stuff. It was a good moment because it's like there's all these fears you accumulate--and god knows, I've had more negative experiences with females than males. High school alone. We can be such b!tches to each other.

Oh, and the title is a reference to Captain Jack from Torchwood, incidentally.

6 comments

sonus-silentio
Wrote three years ago
This is awesome, I would certainly watch the adventures of Captain Jane! ... and I hope 3 years on your frustrations have lessened :)

kitten
Wrote 6 years ago
If Cap Jack were to go Orlando on us...he would adore this.

vanitas
Wrote 6 years ago
I really like this. It's such a cool mix of masculine and feminine things. Anyway, best of luck on your quest! :)

apokalipstick
Wrote 6 years ago
On a completely frivolous note, I'd sell my nonexistent firstborn for that coat. Not that I'm shallow, or anything. On topic, Anglepoise has some pretty sound advice.

kitthappens
Wrote 6 years ago
I have this dream - of a group of single women, straight or gay, who have had enough (of everything and anything) all starting a new life together in TASMANIA. It has the cleanest air and water in the world, cheapest real estate in Australia (a 5 acre home with a view of the sea for $280,000) ... I'd love to live there but don't know anyone there - it helps that the Premier (Governor) is a gay doctor who leads the Greens Party (Dr Bob Brown). Anyway I digress lol ... great slick set!

anglepoise
Wrote 6 years ago
This is a splendid outfit to go on the prowl!
 
Don't lose heart about your dating prospects; I'm sure that plenty of girls would be thrilled to date someone as fun, smart, and sharply dressed as you! The only advice I have is to move beyond the bar scene and keep your eyes open elsewhere. Remember that girls often flirt more subtly than guys, so you might not even notice that the cute barista/record store chick/whathaveyou is hot for you unless you're paying attention. Good luck!

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