If we gauge a woman's success on her visible accomplishments, she will hardly be able to prove herself. Instead, look on her children and the people she loved. Assess the things she value. Be directed by her innate wisdom. Feel her quiet strength. You will realize that very often the woman is an achiever. She is a leader.
Quotes from Sheryl Sandberg (Lean In: Women, Work, and the Will to Lead) :
“Leadership is about making others better as a result of your presence and making sure that impact lasts in your absence.(Harvard Business School definition of leadership)”
“Aggressive and hard-charging women violate unwritten rules about acceptable social conduct. Men are continually applauded for being ambitious and powerful and successful, but women who display these same traits often pay a social penalty. Female accomplishments come at a cost.”
“At a small dinner with other business executives, the guest of honor spoke the entire time without taking a breath. This meant that the only way to ask a question or make an observation was to interrupt. Three or four men jumped in, and the guest politely answered their questions before resuming his lecture. At one point, I tried to add something to the conversation and he barked, "Let me finish! You people are not good at listening!" Eventually, a few more men interjected and he allowed it. Then the only other female executive at the dinner decided to speak up--and he did it again! He chastised her for interrupting. After the meal, one of the male CEOs pulled me aside to say that he had noticed that only the women had been silenced. He told me he empathized, because as a Hispanic, he has been treated like this many times.”
“But instead of blaming women for not negotiating more, we need to recognize that women often have good cause to be reluctant to advocate for their own interests because doing so can easily backfire.”
“The promise of equality is not the same as true equality.”
“Today, despite all of the gains we have made, neither men nor women have real choice. Until women have supportive employers and colleagues as well as partners who share family responsibilities, they don't have real choice. And until men are fully respected for contributing inside the home, they don't have real choice either.”