1. Stop Taking Her Calls And Texts
Once you’ve put it out there that this frenemy is out of your life, stop taking her calls and texts, no matter how incendiary they are. She’s going to be mad, and will strike out at you, but ignore her. Don’t reply, no matter how nasty and hurtful her messages are. Getting into a text tiff will only encourage her — she lives for hisdrama!
2. Delete Her From Facebook/Twitter
While you might be tempted to do a little trash-talking of your own on Facebook or Twitter, hoping this ex-frenemy will see it and know it’s about her, don’t. Just delete the meanie off your friends list and stop following her and delete her from Twitter. Block her, too, so she can’t see your life online. And move on. Don’t stoop to her level.
3. Stop Talking About Her
Once you’ve cut this trash-talking diva out of your life, stop talking about her to your other friends! I know it’s been traumatic, but remember, that was the point of her behavior towards you! Don’t reward her by continuing to talk about her once she’s gone. Move on! Talk about someone you LIKE instead!
4. Be Direct
She has no problem telling you that you look like you’ve gained weight, or that you look horrible in that color, so be just as direct and blunt as she is when you’re ditching her. Tell her you’re tired of her insults and her pettiness, and that you just don’t want to be friends with her any more — and walk away. The end.
5. Cut Out Mutual Friends/Frenemies
Frenemies tend to travel in packs, so you might find it difficult to ditch one of them while still being friends with the others. Get rid of the entire herd of frenemies, then — why would you even want one of them around, anyway?
6. Write Her A Lettter
Sometimes it’s hard to say everything you want to say in person, especially when you’re emotional. If this is the case, try writing a letter instead. Be honest, be forthcoming, but don’t be mean. Tell her you valued her friendship in the past, but that you feel yourrelationship has become toxic, and that you just don’t want to be friends anymore. That, combined with the other things, will get your point across.
The hardest part of ditching a frenemy is sticking to your guns and not letting her pull you back in. But once you’ve set her free, you’ll notice how much brighter your outlook is… and how nice everyone else in your circle of friends is! Which of these tips do you think would work best at ditching the frenemy in your life? Or do you have another idea to share?
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